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This web site contains sexually explicit material:You’ve raised men to find consent unexciting, and now you complain about the consequences. Feminists often point fingers at men, shouting about the patriarchy, but they forget that bad ideas have no gender. Urging men to suppress themselves, after teaching them that consent isn’t sexy, leads nowhere.
A woman who takes the initiative, who says where, how, and when she wants it, is judged as too aggressive, not exciting, a “slut.” Too easy a conquest, no thrill. On the other hand, a woman who needs to be “conquered,” whose consent must be coerced or sexually corrupted, is seen as more desirable. And the wife? She has to please others before she pleases you. She must be a “good girl,” which basically means repressed. And why not brag about it to other men online: “She’s a slut, but only for me.” Not for herself, because, you know, sex and pleasure are for guys!
In 2025, so many men still suffer from the Madonna-whore complex, and part of the blame lies with the women who raised them. Stop playing the victim when you’re part of the problem. After years in my career, I still hear that what I do, out of free and consensual choice, “isn’t real sex” or “can’t really please me.” This is basically denying the existence of my female sexuality. People would rather believe I’m forced to do porn, that I do it for money, or that I’m a “slave to the patriarchy.” Anything goes, as long as they don’t have to admit a woman might enjoy fucking. Because if I don’t enjoy it, it’s more exciting for them. Or they say my husband is a loser for being with a “slut” like me.
Yet, these same people get off on stolen content, photos, or videos taken without the victim’s consent. You blame pornography because it’s an easy scapegoat: it’s all porn’s fault, not the misogyny of your mother! Yet porn is the only context where women openly enjoy and talk about their sexuality. Stop playing the victim and let’s call men who engage in revenge porn what they are: not predators or opportunists, but losers. Losers who can’t get turned on by consenting women. The best way to strip them of power is to nullify their actions, to take away the thrill of hurting us, of making us feel violated. You posted an intimate photo of me without my permission? Who cares, mine’s like everyone else’s.
Phenomena like revenge porn won’t end as long as people are fired, shamed, ridiculed, or stalked just for expressing their sexuality. As long as we think a woman who embraces her sexuality like a man can’t be a good mother or teacher, as long as we treat sex as a mystery to be hidden and fail to educate people about owning their desires, we’ll keep promoting rape culture: the one where consent isn’t exciting.